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[maximumcake]

Max perks up because, wait, that reminds him of a word he encountered in the dictionary of Kink terms Rowan gave him to study.

"Yes. That's it. Uh... it's called objectification. Right? I like that, but yeah, only if it's mostly positive."

[talkative]

"That would be it, yes." Jackie sounds definitely approving at this, and that's because they are. Max has clearly done some studying, and that should help him recognise some things in the long run. Even should Jackie themselves not be around any more some day. You never know in places like these.

They fish paper and a pen out of a pocket and write down YES - objectification, if it is positive. Degradation is already on the general cards, so they figure it'd just be repeating things.

"So, degradation aside. Is there anything that you absolutely do or do not want to happen during a feeding?"

[maximumcake]

Max perks up, responding to that note of approval with a proud smile. Yes. He has been doing his homework.

"Well... as long as I don't get my throat ripped out or seriously injured in some other way? No. Nothing that isn't already on my no list. Not that I can think of."

[talkative]

"All right." For the moment, they'll leave it at that.

Now. Sane. That's always the trickiest one to explain, and their general fairy fuckland situation as well as Max's unique challenges don't help.

"As for the sane part... For you, I think that mainly means two things. The first is to only choose partners that you can trust. Not just in general, but specifically to both keep you safe and healthy and respect those boundaries that you are able to articulate." Or have written down in his pocket, as it is.

The second, then, will be to actually articulate his boundaries, which will be a lot harder. And, of course, take good care of a partner if he's the dominant party, but really Jackie isn't worried about that at all. When it comes to other people's safety and happiness, Max has only ever shown to be considerate and thoughtful.

[maximumcake]

"You mean, choose people I can trust with my body and life," Max says, filling in the blanks. Because, well, that's the truth isn't it? Letting a vampire at his neck is a risk to his own life. He's given that lecture to others before. So... he should be more careful to heed it himself.

"I already gave Lord Akeldama one of my cards, by the way. He was very understanding." So, in this case, the vampire does have Max's trust.

"You said there are two things? What's the second?"

[talkative]

"Exactly that. And: Well done."

There's a short moment where Jackie reaches out and ruffles Max's hair - not in a disorderly, just in an affectionate way - that gives them time to think about the phrasing on the next part.

"It's about boundaries. Yes, they're in the consensual bit, but they feature here too. A sane approach to boundaries means that you know and articulate your own, and that you can make judgement calls on the boundaries of the other person." And some of that will be harder for Max while other parts will be easier.

[maximumcake]

"Thank you." He preens as they ruffle his hair, happy to have that rewarding affection.

"Mm." Max takes a moment to soak that in. There's where things can get tricky for him, as Jackie has seen in the past.

"I guess that's where these cards come in pretty handy. Because it gives me a chance to lay my boundaries out. And I'm always really careful, too, to ask about my partner's at the same time. I mean, sometimes I'm almost a little too cautious but I'd rather potentially spoil the mood than accidentally step over any lines."

[talkative]

An approving nod, and more hair ruffling. "Exactly. Sanity in your case means to lay out everything related to consent ahead of time.

And there's really no being too cautious. If it spoils the mood ahead of time, imagine what it might spoil later after it happened in the heat of the moment."

[maximumcake]

"Mm. Yeah. That's a good point. I've, uh, run into that issue once already." He's thinking of that situation with Milla. That whole thing was... a disaster. If he'd had these talks before then, maybe it might have gone differently? Well, either way, he never wants to let it happen again.

"I'm so grateful you can pass all of this information on to me, but where did you learn all of this? Did you have someone teach you too?"