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*Don't limit yourself, live your best life! Or unlife. As it be. The difference is mostly the breathing, you know? You don't have to smell really gross stuff as much anymore because you don't need to breathe in unless you talk. But then again some people can achieve a better sense of scent and then talking in smelly areas becomes really unpleasant and now if you don't think that's a problem then I don't know what your priorities are.
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Date: 2021-01-27 09:39 am (UTC)Because positives are a lot easier to work with than negatives. For everyone. And it's a kind of thinking that they want to encourage in Max anyway: Being able to say "this is a thing I want" just as much as being able to say "this is something I don't want". There's miles between 'okay' and 'want'. Way too many things are 'okay' to Max that he doesn't actually want, and that's partly what they're working on here.
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Date: 2021-01-27 02:28 pm (UTC)Max has spent so much of his life learning to like things he wasn't necessarily sure he wanted. Now he's being asked to untangle that... and he's not sure he knows how to tell the difference yet. Which, he realizes instantly, is the point. Maybe it says something that he can at least understand the purpose of the exercise now.
But. Okay. What kind would he want?
"Well," he thinks out loud to himself, and to Jackie. "I really like it when... when I'm being teased by two people and they both comment about how desperate I can get." His cheeks are starting to glow and he just knows he must be turning pink.
"I don't want to be called pathetic for it, though. I'm not sure I'd really even like being called a slut under those circumstances. Not like that. Just... I like if my partner thinks it's attractive? And maybe they talk about what they're going to do to reward me for it?"
It's a thin line, he realizes. He likes being called a good boy, and a good pet, but not so much the derogatory stuff. He can handle that outside the bedroom, but not in it.
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Date: 2021-01-27 02:55 pm (UTC)"So you like being talked about like you're an object, but only as long as it is appreciative talk?"
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Date: 2021-01-27 03:14 pm (UTC)"Yes. That's it. Uh... it's called objectification. Right? I like that, but yeah, only if it's mostly positive."
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Date: 2021-02-02 08:43 am (UTC)They fish paper and a pen out of a pocket and write down YES - objectification, if it is positive. Degradation is already on the general cards, so they figure it'd just be repeating things.
"So, degradation aside. Is there anything that you absolutely do or do not want to happen during a feeding?"
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Date: 2021-02-04 02:48 am (UTC)"Well... as long as I don't get my throat ripped out or seriously injured in some other way? No. Nothing that isn't already on my no list. Not that I can think of."
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Date: 2021-02-04 08:06 am (UTC)Now. Sane. That's always the trickiest one to explain, and their general fairy fuckland situation as well as Max's unique challenges don't help.
"As for the sane part... For you, I think that mainly means two things. The first is to only choose partners that you can trust. Not just in general, but specifically to both keep you safe and healthy and respect those boundaries that you are able to articulate." Or have written down in his pocket, as it is.
The second, then, will be to actually articulate his boundaries, which will be a lot harder. And, of course, take good care of a partner if he's the dominant party, but really Jackie isn't worried about that at all. When it comes to other people's safety and happiness, Max has only ever shown to be considerate and thoughtful.
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Date: 2021-02-06 01:43 pm (UTC)"I already gave Lord Akeldama one of my cards, by the way. He was very understanding." So, in this case, the vampire does have Max's trust.
"You said there are two things? What's the second?"
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Date: 2021-05-09 11:57 am (UTC)There's a short moment where Jackie reaches out and ruffles Max's hair - not in a disorderly, just in an affectionate way - that gives them time to think about the phrasing on the next part.
"It's about boundaries. Yes, they're in the consensual bit, but they feature here too. A sane approach to boundaries means that you know and articulate your own, and that you can make judgement calls on the boundaries of the other person." And some of that will be harder for Max while other parts will be easier.
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Date: 2021-05-12 07:18 pm (UTC)"Mm." Max takes a moment to soak that in. There's where things can get tricky for him, as Jackie has seen in the past.
"I guess that's where these cards come in pretty handy. Because it gives me a chance to lay my boundaries out. And I'm always really careful, too, to ask about my partner's at the same time. I mean, sometimes I'm almost a little too cautious but I'd rather potentially spoil the mood than accidentally step over any lines."
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Date: 2021-05-16 10:52 am (UTC)And there's really no being too cautious. If it spoils the mood ahead of time, imagine what it might spoil later after it happened in the heat of the moment."
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Date: 2021-05-18 01:53 am (UTC)"I'm so grateful you can pass all of this information on to me, but where did you learn all of this? Did you have someone teach you too?"